You’re moving yet again. Sometimes the hardest part about moving is making new friends. You feel a little like Daniel LaRusso in the 1984 classic The Karate Kid. Ok, maybe you don’t have problems with bullies who are beating you up using cheap karate moves, but you still have a hard time fitting in anywhere you go. Fortunately, it doesn’t have to be that way.
Keep Old Friends Close
Just because you’re moving doesn’t mean that you need to dump your old friends. In fact, having a network of friends all over the U.S. might help you out someday. besides, if you have a lot in common, and they’re actually your friend, why ditch them? You can always take a flight to go see them, call them on the phone, or even Skype with them.
With Facebook, it’s almost like you never left. Yeah, you can’t go hang out with them on the weekends like you used to. But, you can still be an important part of each other’s lives. So, don’t give up on old friends. Odds are, they don’t want to give up on you. Plus, they might be able to give you invaluable tips for DIY moving – point is, you can never have too many friends, and there’s no reason to burn bridges, ever.
Get Tough – Rejection Is A Part Of Life
You’re not going to be friends with everyone you meet. That’s just a fact of life. But, if you engage with more and more people, you’ll find that you’ll connect with people who you really want to connect with and weed out the undesirables pretty quickly. Try an experiment. The next time you’re at a grocery store in a new town, compliment the cashier on something. Smile. See what they say. It’s small talk, yes, but notice what happens.
If you smile, do they smile back? Most of the time, you’ll find that, yes, they will. This is the first step in making new friends. Now, you don’t have to chat up every grocery store employee, but it’s the principle here that counts. You could do the same thing to a random stranger walking down the street, someone you see sitting alone in a coffee shop, or someone you meet at a social event.
Expand Your Circle Of Friends
You’ll have to rethink your idea of what a friend means. If you’re only looking for a BFF that’s your age, you’ll miss out on a lot of what older and younger people have to offer. Your senior citizen of a neighbor might have cool stories to tell or even amazing recipes to share. The co-worker who is 10 years your junior may be able to remind you how to let loose and party once in a while.
Follow Up On Leads
If a friend or acquaintance of yours says that they know someone in your new city or town that you might like hanging out with, follow up on it. A friend of a friend might just become your new best friend. If it’s a blind date, do it – you never know. It could be a disaster or it could end up being your future spouse.
Join a Club, Class Or Organization
When in Rome, do as the Romans do. That’s what they say, right? Join clubs, organizations, and MeetUp groups that interest you. It’s a great way to explore the area, meet people with like-minded interests, and have some fun.
Jeremy S has moved more times than he cares to count. With such diverse relocation experiences, he enjoys blogging about tips and tricks to smooth moves and feeling at home.